Divorcing a Spouse with a Personality Disorder
Divorcing a spouse is inherently challenging, but when a personality disorder is in the mix, the complexities can make an already difficult situation feel impossible.
Two personality disorders that frequently present unique challenges during divorce proceedings are Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
Individuals with BPD often experience intense and unpredictable mood swings, adding an extra layer of difficulty to divorce proceedings as heightened emotional reactions that can potentially derail the process are almost guaranteed. Fear of abandonment is a central theme in BPD, and that fear is realized if they are being served divorce papers and faced with the reality that the relationship is beyond repair. Approaching negotiations with patience and empathy can help maintain a semblance of stability.
The black-and-white thinking characteristic of BPD can lead to communication breakdowns. Creating a structured communication plan, possibly involving legal representatives, can help mitigate misunderstandings and facilitate more productive discussions that allow you to move forward with the next chapter of your life.
A grandiose sense of self-importance and a lack of empathy are benchmarks for people who have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Their need to maintain control during the divorce process may result in them making false claims, as well as a resistance to compromise that may necessitate mediation or judicial intervention to keep the process moving forward. Financial transparency is another element that must be addressed when divorcing someone with NPD. Attempts to manipulate financial information or conceal assets may occur, so working closely with financial experts can help ensure a fair and equitable distribution of assets.
When divorcing a spouse with NPD or BPD, a family law attorney with experience in these matters can be a useful ally. An attorney can provide guidance on navigating the emotional complexities, helping clients stay focused on their legal objectives instead of the emotional aspects of the divorce. They can assist in establishing clear communication channels and boundaries.
Personality disorders can manifest in various ways, and documenting incidents of emotional or financial manipulation is essential for presenting a compelling case in court. Your attorney can help gather evidence, such as text messages, emails or financial records, to support and protect your interests.
If you are facing the challenging prospect of divorcing a spouse with a personality disorder, you don’t have to navigate this journey alone. Timothy W. Terry, Attorney at Law is an Orlando family law firm that guides clients through difficult divorces. I understand the intricacies of divorcing individuals with personality disorders and am committed to guiding you through this challenging process with compassion. Call 407-567-0406 or contact me online to schedule a free consultation today.
